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The Art of Becoming: Why Being Is More Important Than Doing or Having

In a world that never stops moving, the pressure to do more, have more, and be more is relentless. From a young age, we're told that success is measured by our achievements and possessions. The louder message we hear is one of perpetual motion: do more, work harder, acquire more, and maybe you'll find happiness. But what if I told you that true contentment lies not in the endless chase but in the quiet moments of becoming?

The Illusion of Doing and Having

Our society is built on the foundation of accomplishment and material wealth. We measure our worth by our job titles, the size of our homes, and the brands we wear. This relentless pursuit often leaves us exhausted, empty, and perpetually unsatisfied. We're stuck on a hamster wheel, chasing a version of success that always seems just out of reach.

But what are we really chasing? Is it happiness? Fulfillment? Or the approval of others? The truth is, the joy found in "having" is fleeting, and the satisfaction derived from "doing" is often overshadowed by the next big goal. This cycle is exhausting and, frankly, unending.

The Journey to Becoming

Imagine, instead, a path focused not on accumulating or achieving but on becoming. This journey is about something other than what we can show for our efforts on social media or at family gatherings. It's about who we become in the quiet moments when no one is watching.

Becoming is about growth, self-discovery, and the evolution of our character. It's a process that doesn't scream for attention or demand applause. Instead, it whispers in the language of self-reflection, mindfulness, and genuine connection with ourselves and the world around us.

Mindfulness: The Key to Becoming

Mindfulness is at the heart of becoming — fully present and engaged in the moment without judgment. Mindfulness allows us to appreciate the here and now rather than dwelling on the past or worrying about the future. It teaches us to value the process over the destination, finding joy and learning in every step of our journey.

Shifting the Focus Within

The shift from doing and having to become takes time to happen. It requires intention, patience, and a willingness to look inward. Here are a few steps to guide you on this journey:

1. Practice Gratitude: Start and end your day by reflecting on what you're grateful for. Gratitude shifts your focus from what's missing to what's present.

2. Set Intentions, Not Goals: While goals are focused on future achievements, intentions are about the present moment. They allow us to live our values and focus on our desires.

3. Seek Growth, Not Perfection: Embrace the lessons in every experience, knowing that each contributes to your becoming. Understand that mistakes are not failures but opportunities to learn and grow.

4. Connect Deeply: With yourself, others, and nature. These connections remind us of our humanity and the beauty of our shared experience.

5. Embrace Stillness: We hear our thoughts and desires in silence. Allow yourself moments of stillness to connect with your inner voice.

The Balance Between Being and Doing

It's important to acknowledge that action and ambition have their places in our lives. The key is to find a balance where our actions align with the essence of who we are becoming. Let your inner growth inform your external actions, making them more purposeful and fulfilling.

In Conclusion, The Beauty of Becoming

As we embark on this journey of becoming, we learn to appreciate the beauty of evolving. We understand that we are works in progress and that our lives are masterpieces in the making. The focus shifts from external validation to internal peace and fulfilment.

And so, I leave you with a thought, a mantra to carry with you:

"In the quiet moments of reflection, I found that true success is not measured by what I have done or what I possess, but by who I am becoming." - Julian Jenkins

The path to becoming is unique for each of us yet universally challenging. It asks us to slow down, to reflect, and most importantly, to be. In being, we find the essence of our true selves, and from there, we can build a life of meaning, purpose, and joy.

Let us embrace the art of becoming, for it is in this process that we uncover the depth and richness of our true essence. It's not about the accolades or the material possessions we accumulate but the depth of character we develop, the kindness we spread, and the love we share. In the simplicity of being, we find the profound beauty of life itself.

The world hustles around us, urging us to do more, to have more. Yet, in the stillness of our being, we discover that what we seek externally has always been within us. The journey of becoming is not marked by the milestones of societal success, but by the inner peace and joy, we experience when we align with our true selves.

This transformation doesn't demand grand gestures or significant life changes. It begins with a single step, a moment of awareness, a breath of intention. Each day offers a new opportunity to become more authentic ourselves, peel back the layers of expectation and ambition, and reveal the luminous soul that resides within.

We are not static beings, destined to remain as we are. We are fluid, ever-changing, and evolving. The beauty of our journey lies not in the destination but in the transformation. As we shift our focus from doing and having to become, we open ourselves to a world of possibilities, where each moment is an opportunity for growth, learning, and profound joy.

So, let us embark on this journey with open hearts and minds, ready to embrace the art of becoming. Let us cultivate a life that reflects our deepest values and highest aspirations, where every action, every choice, expresses our most authentic selves.

And remember, the essence of life is not found in the hustle but in the harmony of being. Let this be the guiding light on your path to becoming:

"To be is to become; in becoming, we find the essence of our truest selves." - Julian Jenkins

In this journey, let us not seek the approval of the world but the resonance of our souls. For it is in the quiet, unassuming moments of being that we uncover the most profound truths of our existence. Let us cherish these moments, for they are the heartbeat of our journey, the whispers of our soul guiding us home.

Welcome to the art of becoming, where the truest success is measured not by the milestones we achieve but by the depth of our being and the love we share along the way.

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Beautifully spoken. This resonates with me and where I am presently. Have you thought of putting together a retreat where you live in UK? I was told by a medium I need a silent retreat. 😊


Julian ! I posted this on my Facebook page. It is so well put together and it resonates with me on so many levels. I can't wait to be able to join the classes again.


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